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[HW3]

Doug, you have 6 grandchildren who need to know their grandmother. With your gift of writing, you should put together a book filled with stories and photos of Terry, that they can look at and read, to let them know what a wonderful person Terry was. Having a grandfather around to expound on the stories would be nice too.

Take Care my Friend
Dave

[Kaleun1961]

A good idea. Three of my grandparents died when I was too young to remember them. The little I know of them is from my parents in verbal form.

[Doug_Dread]

Don't have the time or energy for that atm.

I have told it here like I always have.... as it is. As usual, you are privy to what's going on inside of me, but my family isn't. All they know is that dad/grandad has stepped up to catch them when they fall, pull them together, hold them close and keep them moving forward. I don't know if Terry would be proud or not, but I reckon she'd be wide-eyed in astonishment and shaking her head in disbelief at how well the family is responding. All except my eldest daughter who has totally lost her mojo. She's a work in progress.

If Terry doesn't approve of how I collapse in a heap when I'm alone, well, it won't be the first time she's been ****ed off at me.

[Kaleun1961]

I remember how my father had to step up to the plate when my mother became ill with cancer. Dad became very nurturing and solicitous, contrary to his previous inclination to be somewhat self centered. He nursed and cared for Mom until she passed away at the age of 52. Dad then fell apart for some time before bouncing back. Mom never said it to us kids, but I think she was proud of Dad for holding it together during her illness. You do what you have to do.

[HW3]

Hey Doug, are you still around? I've been thinking of you, and wondered how you are doing.

[Doug_Dread]

Originally posted by HW3:
Hey Doug, are you still around? I've been thinking of you, and wondered how you are doing.

Hi mate.

I'm still alive and doing ok, thanks for caring. Don't spend much time on forums anymore and stopped playing games, still collect games I feel I want to play, but never get around to it.

Trying to find a new life and reinventing oneself at my age is pretty tough, because nothing of your previous life can be recycled. There are sometimes moments of happiness and feelings of progress and other times the feeling that I'm just waiting for God.

Family are all good, still miss their mom terribly as do I. Whoever said nobody is irreplaceable, was dead wrong.

Life goes on and we do do what we must each day, one step at a time.

Hope you are well and that goes for all my friends here.

Cheers,
Doug

[HW3]

Good to hear from you Doug! I agree at our ages (I'm 60) it is hard to reinvent oneself. Believe it or not, reading what you wrote does show that you are doing better. Like you wrote "One step at a time." Take care my friend!

Cheers,
Dave

[Celeon999]

Good to hear from you indeed.

[Messervy]

Hi Doug

Glad to hear from you !

[Doug_Dread]

Hi Friends.

May everyone here have a glorious Christmas and New Year and keep hugging your loved ones like tomorrow is never going to come, because eventually it doesn't.

Warmest wishes,
Doug