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07-26-2005, 06:08 PM
I have seen how well this community comes together to support and offer prayers for those in need, and it is a humbling and sometimes emotional experience.

That is why I ask for you guys/gals to offer you prayers and thoughts for my dear mother in her last hours.

She has struggled with the curse of Multiple Sclerosis with a smile and a ready laugh, eager to see others enjoying what she cannot and bringing pleasure where she can by compliments and a ready ear, yet dealing with her totall dependance on others for food and liquid in a selfless and stoic manner.

Cancer struck her whilst she was already down, and went unseen long enough to get to her liver.

Two years after the doctors thought she would succumb she is still with us, having fought numerous incursions from pneumonia (she has an impaired swallow and has been tube fed for the past year) to bounce back and regailed us with her humour and delight in seeing her grandchildren.

But now her body is shutting down and I am waiting for the 'phone call from my father to say her fight is over and she is free.

May she fly with the Angels where she belongs, free and unfettered and at last without pain.

Thanks for reading, feels odd posting this but it has helped.

07-26-2005, 06:17 PM
Listen, she will always be with you man. I lost my mum two years ago when i was just 15, and man was it hard. Things around you will become meaningless and you wont care, i know i didnt. When people say you will get over it in time, they are lying, you never get over it. My thoughts are truly with you and your mother right now. I will never love anyone like i loved my mum, if you ever wanna talk about it you can talk with me mate, even if we dont know each other. Losing your mum will be probably the worst ever but you will be ok, i can say that from experience. Keep your head up and focus on the people you love and yourself. May she rest in peace my friend, and may she have a happy journey ahead of her. Theres so much more i want to say to you but it would span a page so ill leave it, i really do feel for you. Remember shell always be with you, i know that! Salute~ friend.

07-26-2005, 06:19 PM
My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family in this very difficult and trying time.

07-26-2005, 06:20 PM
I wish your family well. And hope she will beat this too.

07-26-2005, 06:24 PM
My prayers tonigt go to your mother and family.

07-26-2005, 06:29 PM
your mum, you and your family are in my prayers. Be strong m8.

07-26-2005, 06:43 PM
my thoughts are with you and your family.

07-26-2005, 06:45 PM
Enk my heart goes out to you....... I am my mother's oinly son and we are very close. To even imagine her in that situation bringsa tears to my eyes... hang in there man. She will be added to my list.

07-26-2005, 07:35 PM
I lost my mom to cancer when I was a young teen years after my father had already passed away. She€s been in my heart now for over 25 years, really like it was yesterday. Hers was a drawn out end like your mom€s so it wasn€t a shock, just very sad. You€ll live with it and continue to grow as the pain of her loss will subside but her memory stays. My heart is with you.

07-26-2005, 08:05 PM
My thoughts are with you and your family. I know the strain of MS, it is in my family too.

07-26-2005, 08:10 PM
Vaya con Dios Madre

07-26-2005, 08:22 PM
I'll be thinking/praying for your Mom & family tonight.

07-26-2005, 08:50 PM
my heart goes out to you. i lost my mother to cancer on june 1 2002. she also faced the end like
a trooper and never onced complained.
you,your mom and all your loved ones are in my

07-26-2005, 08:51 PM
I lost my mom a couple of years ago to breast cancer and one thing that I heard helped ease the pain a little.

I heard that there is an African tribe that sings when somebody with children dies (in not so many words) "All is as it should be, the parent has passed on before the child".

As a father now I know what this means.

The only thing harder than for you to lose your mom, would be for her to lose you.

Good luck and be strong in this difficult time.

07-26-2005, 09:13 PM
On my list too -- "prayer changes things."

07-26-2005, 09:43 PM
She will live on in you and grand kids. She knows this (be sure).

07-26-2005, 10:04 PM
She sounds like a wonderful lady, my prayers go out for her and all your family.

07-26-2005, 10:09 PM
I pray you will find peace and comfort.The thoughts and prayers of my faimly go out to you.

07-26-2005, 10:40 PM
God, its hard.

my prayers are for you all

07-26-2005, 11:36 PM
My prayers and thoughts will be with you and yours

07-26-2005, 11:56 PM
I lost my mom just over a month ago to complecations after surgery to remove cancer so i know aecactly what you are going thruoght and what you will be going through but as dajama said she will always be with you .And one thing that makes it easier for me is knowing that one day i will see my mom again and you should keep that in mind about your mom .Your mom and family are in my prayers

07-27-2005, 12:10 AM
ill say a prayer for her tonight. she sounds like a wounderfull lady. i hope the best for her as well as you and your family.

07-27-2005, 12:12 AM
S! You will meet once surely.

07-27-2005, 01:02 AM
My condolences to you and your family

07-27-2005, 01:34 AM
Thank you for your kind words, thoughts and prayers guys.

To me and all that had contact with her she was special, I hope I am a reasonable mirror of her ways.

She passed as I was posting here, I was unable to be at her side but I know it was a peaceful slip from this world.

To no longer suffer as she did is a blessing, may her peace be all that she so justly deserves.

07-27-2005, 01:41 AM
Condolences with the loss from your mother.

When remembering her, always get a smile on your face (with a little tear somethimes).

07-27-2005, 01:49 AM
My prayers and thoughts are with you your Mum and your family today............... She has gone to a place free from pain and will be like the Mum of old, happy, smiling and looking down on you all, you to will one day join her and be reunited in happiness. God bless her.

07-27-2005, 02:09 AM
God bless her and your family. May you all find peace with it, in the next few days. And enjoy the company of each other as you gather to respect and reminisce.

07-27-2005, 02:28 AM
The link between Mother and Son is soul deep, and that can never be broken€¦ It has always and will be forever.

07-27-2005, 02:58 AM
I'm sure that having u as a son is most comforting for her in this situation and makes it less hard to move on.

My praiers...!

07-27-2005, 05:08 AM
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman. You will always carry her spirit with you man.

Take the time you need to morn and don't hold anything back.

We are here for ya mate.


07-27-2005, 05:20 AM
Went through a similar experience only it was my father. Keep you're chin up mate. God bless.

The best piece of advice here by PF_Coastie.
Take the time you need to morn and don't hold anything back.


07-27-2005, 06:04 AM
Our thoughts are with you. Keep her in your heart.

07-27-2005, 06:22 AM
God bless.

07-27-2005, 07:03 AM
Sit somewhere quiet and remember the good times you had with her. It helps.

07-27-2005, 07:49 AM
My condolences to you.http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

07-27-2005, 08:27 AM
be strong, try to be with her.

07-27-2005, 09:35 AM
Really sorry to hear that, Enk. I can sympathize with you; my dad has advanced Parkinson's disease, and the last few weeks haven't been too good for him either. We will keep you in our prayers. You've got a large community of folks here who will be here for you.

07-27-2005, 09:44 AM
My sincerest condolences for you and your family during your time of loss, B16Enk. Take heart in the fact that she no longer suffers from the ailments of this life.

07-27-2005, 04:43 PM
My condolences to you.

Words are so poor in these moments...but be strong!

07-27-2005, 10:13 PM
My thoughts are with you and your family.

07-27-2005, 10:24 PM
lost my uncle to ms, now his 2 daughters have it, and one is in pretty bad shape. wish i could think of something to help........but these guys already have come up wiht everything, so ditto.

07-27-2005, 11:09 PM
Something that helped me deal with my fathers difficult passing was the realization that even though a loved one has died and their spirit is gone, their love remains as does yours for them. They are no longer around to speak to or to hug, but your love for each other IS.

Love is an energy, a force within you and around you that is part of and beyond the physical world, which can be projected to and shared with other people.

Your love for each other will always be with you.

You have the opportunity in life to share that love with others. And by doing so, you mothers love will live on in this world.

07-27-2005, 11:23 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss. Condolences to you and your family.